Living With Pain Vs. Pain For The First Time.

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My 19-year-old daughter had her lower two wisdom teeth removed this morning. They gave her a little laughing gas while we kept her company until her surgeon appeared (20 minutes later) and then he turned on the laughing gas way up high. After, he sedated her so she fell asleep and when she awakened she was the most giggly girl I have seen since she was about five. It was delightful to see a glimpse of my grown-up daughter back in time when her defenses hadn’t evolved, her moods were just plain happiness and silliness and she looked at her brother and me lovingly.

Back at home she is still high as a kite but experiences no pain, she refuses to even try to go to sleep even though as her mom, I see she her blue eyes are closing and that she is so tired.  Being her mom I was a nervous wreck last night and I told my son sleepily when he came to wake me up: “they should give anxiety sedation to the moms, not to the teenagers.” Anyone reading this that’s a mom will know exactly what I’m talking about, right?

Having Fibromyalgia, I know what Pain feels like but I’ve known it many times. I’ve had the “dreaded” Eppiglottitis two or three times that is more painful than childbirth and I dread it constantly. Childbirth is no picnic but that’s a different pain. At the end you know that you will get a reward: your new baby so it doesn’t really count as much and it’s a pain you mostly forget. Notice I said mostly. I’ve had broken ankles and broken wrists, I’ve had my tonsils out and my gallbladder removed so I have known pain pretty much early on and often.

I had fallen asleep on my bed for a few minutes today when my daughter woke me up her painful grunts and her cranky face. “It hurts” she whined and I knew that it must. She hadn’t slept and the sedation had all but left her body and she hurt. I brought her back to her bed, removed the cotton from her mouth, got her some raspberry yogurt as requested because she was “hungry” and afterwards helped her to swallow a pain medication that her doctor prescribed.

By the time the medication worked (a good 25 minutes) she moaned and groaned and complained about the pain. I felt the pain as much as she did if not more. Parents, you know… Then I realized something and I asked her “Is this the first time you’ve ever felt pain?” She said yes, quite honestly. The scowl etched on her face forming deep, unhappy lines. I thought to myself, “oh my God, maybe she will have more understanding about what I go through with Fibromyalgia, intense pain, most of the time.”

It seemed like I had always known pain but when I thought back I hadn’t known it until I was a young teenager and tripped over myself in my parent’s living room, causing my ankle to swell up to a deep purple ball and going for an X-ray for confirmation that yes, indeed it was broken. My first cast of many, I was 15, I remember and I was in high school.

It’s not likely that my daughter will be more sympathetic to my pain or even understand it, kids forget things so quickly but at least I know, that she’s never had a frame of reference. Maybe now she will.

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3 thoughts on “Living With Pain Vs. Pain For The First Time.

  1. I hope Miss “Cranky face” is all better and healed up good! These things drive us over the edge don’t they. But I remember my Mom fussing over me when I had mine pulled.

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  2. Thanks for this timely post. My husband has had six back surgeries, MRSA, failed nerve stimulator, etc. etc. Constant pain. I have fibromylagia significant enough that it is disabling. This morning his daughter called and told us about her 15 mile bike ride followed by 3 mile walk yesterday. Then told her dad (my hubby) how he would feel better if he would just get out and be more active. I had him read your post. The “kids” just don’t get it, and probably never will. But at least he sees that he is not the only one facing the struggle of chronic pain. I am grateful in one sense that he understands my pain exactly. Again, it is nice to see someone else sharing these problems. Who knows if it does any good regarding the kids and their understanding. We can only hope.

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    • Thanks so much for reading the blog and showing hubby. I don’t think my kids get it at all and they are 19 and almost 21. But, did I really get things about my parents at that age? Probably not. They were just parents not people. I’m so glad you wrote, feel free to read whatever posts you like, there are tons on this subject. Hope both of you feel good, at least as good as you can. I so understand.

      Warm wishes, Laurie https://hibernationnow.wordpress.com

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