Kellie Elmore, FWF

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I didn’t understand it then, but I understand it now…

…though I’d be lying if I said it didn’t take a very long time. Truly, it took almost my entire life to learn this lesson that I so desperately needed to learn. I guess you get small signs at first, maybe you trip you have a pebble in your shoe,a week later you trip over a rock. You, again, think it’s you being clumsy. Still, it’s a coincidence, you barely notice and of course you’ve always been clumsy.

A week goes by and during a heavy rainfall a few small branches from a tree break off and land on the ground but you are not looking so you fall and stumble on them and wind up, wet with sore ankle. Turns out that your ankle was fractured and it has to be in a cast for 4-6 weeks.

Finally you start thinking, what on earth is going on?

What is happening? There is a message waiting for you from whatever God, Spirit, Nature or Force that you Believe in. I never used to see the signs to change my patterns when I was younger, maybe I was too self-absorbed but now in mid-life I pay attention to what the Universe has to tell me and I am grateful.

I used to think everybody acted like me because I was the only person I really knew. My standards were high, different, my style was individual, the friends I connected with were similar; but others weren’t. Some of their styles like empathy and compassion are the same but how they displayed it or didn’t was very different from me.

It’s very hard to get used to, very hard. So you need to trust, trust your instincts and know in your heart that even though D. or C. or M. may love you, they can’t show it to you in the way you need to hear it. It isn’t that they are being obtuse or stubborn it is not something they can do, certainly not easily if at all.

Is that a deal breaker? It used to be, for me. Does it have to be? Absolutely not. Does that mean you need to break up a friendship? Sometimes yes and sometimes no. If you feel you are giving ALL the time and not getting anything back, maybe. No friendship can sustain 100 percent on one person doing ALL the work.

But if you know in your heart that if you called said person at 3AM and desperately needing them and you know without a doubt that they wouldn’t hesitate getting dressed to come to you, you should know better.

It’s the measure of Love.

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7 thoughts on “Kellie Elmore, FWF

  1. I too believe we learn lessons from friends, good and bad and know that there are reasons for people coming into and leaving our lives. I too Kelly, know that there are those special few that you can count on being there even during your darkest times. I am blessed with those special few and each of us know that we will be there for each other until we draw our last breaths, no questions asked. I really enjoyed this post too!! Actually, I am just loving your blog @hibernationnow!!!
    Cathy from chatycat xo

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  2. I have recently let friends go. Our paths had crossed for long enough and it was time for us both to be on our way in separate directions. At first it was painful, but now I understand that I, at least, learned the lessons brought to bear and it was time to open my life to new experiences. A lonely prospect, at first, but as we know when when door closes another is bound to open. … Thank you for your thought provoking free write. I enjoyed it. 🙂

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  3. Like trends, friends come and go, but there are always the special few that you can and need to count on being in your corner in the darkened hour. I enjoyed this. 🙂

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