Carry on Tuesday: In my life: The Spirituality Of Wisdom

Meditation

Meditation (Photo credit: atsukosmith)

There has been a fair amount of joy and pain in my long life. One needs to learn to accept that from the beauty of childhood to the path of adulthood. It is the tipping point, like a seesaw that sways you from very young to adult. It’s not always a smooth landing, it is not supposed to be; sometimes  the landing can jar you completely and you end up feeling pain. Do not despair. There is always a reason.

You will learn that not every day is wonderful and gratifying. Because when you are young, it’s unlikely to have a very bad day. You may have a stressful day with homework and commitments but these earlier years, they are magical. I try to tell this to my son and daughter but I know they won’t listen; I didn’t listen at their age either. There are some things in life that can’t be taught. You must discover them on your own: Wisdom. Self-esteem. Your place in the world. Connection.

Clasp your hands together, gently, close your eyes and breathe deeply. Allow yourself the time, the solitude, of silent gratitude. We are here in this lifetime to understand, to learn, to focus. We are here to help each other, to seek kindness from within, to share that with the world.

Much of my past life I suffered from anxiety and pessimism. As I was blessed with age, the gray strands of hair, the tiny wrinkles around my eyes have given me the opportunity, the knowledge to learn, to be able to sigh deeply with knowledge and greater understanding. The  choice has always been mine. I stand now, looking in my  mind’s eye, smiling widely, happy to appreciate what I see, who I am, more importantly who I have become. Appreciate every day, be thankful for your gifts, your blessings. Let your heart be open to nature and to blessings and wisdom, to the ways of the world in peace and harmony, starting from within. Trust the world around you, but most importantly, trust yourself.

Carry on Tuesday – Life Is For The Living

Life is but a dream....

Life is but a dream…. (Photo credit: Peppysis)

Life is a song – sing it. Life is a game – play it. Life is a challenge – meet it. Life is a dream – realize it. Life is a sacrifice – offer it. Life is love – enjoy it.

My dad always told me, growing up, that in life there were ups and downs. In the same vein, my mom said  “there are no guarantees” and sang off-key “I beg your pardon, I never promised you a rose garden”. Growing up, I thought my parents should have protected me more from the harsh realities of the world, now I thank them that they didn’t. I found when I had my children and they would nastily argue “that’s NOT fair” my husband and I would often agree with them simply by saying “You are right, sometimes, Life, isn’t fair,” because that is how the real world works.
I’d like to think that the good people win and live and the bad ones get in trouble and die but at 56 I’ve had too many experiences where life has shown me otherwise. I think you really have to learn this yourself, no one can tell you about it, nor can you learn from others, true teaching comes from within. You have to experience it with its wide array of emotions.
I’ve only known real joy when I experienced it; it was not even close to mild happiness or contentment. I’ve only known great loss through death of my father. What I had thought was sadness or depression before was nothing like the shell of the person I became after my dad died. We never had the perfect relationship, there is no such thing, but he was the one in the family who knew me best. We understood each other instantly, we thought the same way, at the same time. Just a look, a glance and we would have already communicated without saying a word.
When recently talking to a friend about goals and dreams she asked me what I wanted to do next, in fantasy if nothing else. I told her about the stories I write and the photographs I take. She said: “So, you are not getting any younger, just do it. What’s stopping you?” My mouth dropped open in surprise and I was both intimidated and flattered. WHAT IS? Since then I’ve kept myself busy by trying on all different things as well: just trying to get out of my house and comfort level, and bring some money in for my husband. I am proud of what I have done so far, but mostly I am proud of not only wanting to try but actually doing it.
Life is what is going on you now, there is no time for putting things off until later, believe me. Life is a song – sing it. Life is a game – play it. Life is a challenge – meet it. Life is a dream – realize it. Life is a sacrifice – offer it. Life is love – enjoy it. It take some of us more time than others but once you are ready, go for it. Life escapes us, doesn’t it? It almost like a waking dream, it flies by us so quickly we startle when we realize that most of our lives are mostly over. What are YOU waiting for? Do the fun things now, cross something off your damned “bucket list” today. Kiss the hand of your loved one and tell them how much you cherish them,  do it now. Life is for the living, don’t waste it. Not for another second. This is my hope.